When The Bio Mom Has a Boyfriend

[Megan EdwardsKeymaster]

Is this the way it has gone for you?

For Me I’m just sayin’… it’s so much easier when the BM gets a boyfriend.

When I first started seeing my partner and ran into him with his son, his son mentioned my name to his mother and she was mad that he was talking about me because she wished she had been consulted before he met me (we hadn’t done an official meeting and had planned to let her know when we did) but when she introduced my SS to her bf, she didn’t bother letting us know, even though it had made her so upset when it was the other way around.

When we put my name down as a person to pick my SS up from school, she threw a fit, but recently she added her bf to that list.

My partner and I don’t have a problem with either of these things…but we do talk about the hypocrisy of it all!! I guess she was never going to understand our side of things until she began a relationship of her own…and, thankfully, she finally has!!! - Megan

[parentintrainingParticipant]

It’s funny how there can be a double standard, but I guess it also makes sense. Sometimes, only once you are in a situation you can understand the actions of somebody who was in it before. It seems to be this way with the BioMoms a lot of the time.

[JahnaParticipant]

BM is a complete hypocrite.

DH told her of me and our relationship and his intent of all of us meeting before the kids met me but they met me first. She never consulted DH when she got a bf.. and that is all he ever was. We’ve been engaged for 6 years (the why’s are a long story).

BM added bf to the kids schools but forbade DH to do the same with me. Another long story but she has legal custody of them.

She leaves the kids with her aging father who has back and knee issues (living in a multi level home with several sets of stairs) but she forbade for years that they be left alone with me. I’m a double leg amputee who uses a wheelchair full time and have always done so as I was born with a disability. Our house is one level and I could easily get the children out if needed.

Rules change when it suits her for them to change and only then.

SD12 isn’t allowed to be left home alone even though it’s legal for her to be alone in the state of NY.
BM is also requiring SD12 to go to the babysitters 2 days a week until she’s 14 yrs old. BM works 2 mornings a week and SS15 leaves an hour before SD12 would. SD18 is off to college.

BM and bf are no longer together. I miss the times/days she was with him. In some ways she was easier to handle.

[WannabesmilfParticipant]

Funny how that can make such a difference. I had a very similar experience.

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